Lessons about family values from the show ‘THIS IS US’

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It’s time to talk about one of my favorite shows, THIS IS US. A family show suitable for all generations and it has some great morals for everyone!

This is us is a story of Father, Mother & their three children. The reason why it affects viewers more than any other show because the story runs from the time this couple was in love until they get old.

Their love life, marriage, pregnancy, triplets delivery, the childhood of their children, teenage and so on. Once after the delivery of three kids, you watch them grow. Their teenage makes you feel nostalgic and you will be there throughout.

Jack, Rebecca, Kate, Randall, and Kevin become part of our life.

The beauty of this series is the way they have combined different phases of life without affecting the flow. I just wonder how much effort they might have put in story writing and screenplay. The director of this show beautifully written Jack’s character but kept the secret about his disappearance. Which made people binge watch this series just to know what happened to Jack.

Trust me, I was sobbing while watching some of the episodes. This is us is an emotional ride between the 80s and 90s.

 

Let me brief you what this show is about;

 

 

Jack and Rebecca are a happily married couple who gets pregnant with triplets. Jack has small business hence they belong to the middle-class family.

Things start changing when Rebecca gets pregnant with triplets. Though they are happy about their kids, future financial state concerns them and Jack works hard to make everything better.

However, everything will not go according to our plan. If so, god would be jobless!

After the delivery, they will come to know that the third baby couldn’t survive. They already named their three kids, bought 3 cradles, decorated baby room to fit 3 kids, bought clothes, knitted three pair of socks…..

This affects Rebecca more and she seems depressed after the delivery. Then they decide to adopt the THIRD BABY!

That is how Randall enters the Pearson family. Entry of this black baby into the white family brings many questions from society. But Jack & Rebecca love their kids unconditionally.

I’m not going to tell you about the entire series!

 

1)  Dad never speaks but he has feelings

 

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We all have that Dad in our life who doesn’t speak much about his problems. In fact, he is the one who bears most of the burdens of the family. But he chooses to be silent.

Jack is one such father who bears all the pain silently. He is the hero of this show. He dedicated his life for his wife and kids. He did all he could, loved the kids unconditionally, and fought his weakness.

There is a scene in This is Us where pregnant Rebecca shouts on Jack, leaves the house and later realizes that it’s Jack’s birthday today. Then she comes back to say sorry. But the way Jack reacted in this situation is commendable. He knew his wife is going through many things by having 3 kids within her and showed his patience.

I doubt there exist men like Jack person in real life. He is a perfct husband and father.

 

2)  Forgiving is necessary

 

 

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THIS IS US — “The Right Thing to Do” Episode 111 — Pictured: (l-r) Sterling K. Brown as Randall Pearson, Ron Cephas Jones as William Hill — (Photo by: Ron Batzdorff/NBC)

 

We all should learn to ‘LET GO’ things. The more you hold a grudge the more you will suffer. Sometimes most of the issues will be solved by just one simple forgiveness.

Randall is the best example when we are talking about forgiveness. He is empathetic throughout the story. He forgave his biological father even after knowing that he just left him in the fire station.

Once he grows up he got to know that his mother Rebecca is the reason to not to have any contact with his biological father. He was angry at her but still, he understood her love &  concerns and forgave her.

When Kevin and Randall were young, Kevin was jealous towards Randall because he thought Randall gets more love from his parents. Yet, Randall forgave him.

 

3) Kids learn from the parents

 

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THIS IS US — “The Big Three” Episode 102 — Pictured: (l-r) Mandy Moore as Rebecca, Mackenzie Hancsicsak as Kate, Milo Ventimiglia as Jack, Parker Bates as Kevin, Lonnie Chavis as Randall — (Photo by: Ron Batzdorff/NBC)

 

Parents are the first teachers to their kids. Maybe they are not teaching in a classroom fashion but whatever they talk, eat, does is promptly followed by the kids.

If you are a parent, remember this – They are observing you!

Jack’s mother feared about him that he might end up like his father because Jack’s father was an alcoholic. Hence she always told him not to be like his father.

Jack was a great gentleman! He comforted his kids and taught them to do the right things in life. Randall follows his dad’s path. When he got married and had kids, he wanted to be like his father.

 

4) Nobody is perfect

 

 

We all are in the era of Social Media, hiding our sorrows and posing happily in front of the camera. Only we and our closed ones know what exactly we are going through. Otherwise, the rest of the world thinks that we are super happy! Jealous of us!

We need to learn that nobody is perfect in this world. Everyone has that baggage full of problems hanging to their back. We all have our own insecurities.

Big example to illustrate this fact is Kate. She has everything, loving mother, supportive father but her whole life she fought with Obesity. She tried everything she can but failed most of the times.

One thing to observe here is Jack’s support for Kate. He was always there for her.

 

5) Opposite poles attract

 

Have you observed Kate & Toby’s relationship? They are the perfect romantic couple of the show.

They both have obesity but Tony never bothers about it. While the same obesity is making Kate hide under the rock! She has an inferiority complex but Toby is funny.

Jack & Rebecca were also the same. While Rebecca forgets his birthday he is always first in surprising her with a lot of gifts. Though Jack used to drink on Rebecca’s back he never kept any secrets from her but Rebecca kept big secrets from Jack.

Then comes Randall and Beth! These two are ideal couple always taking care of their family. In the later episodes, they started facing a lot of differences.

‘This is us’ shows that when you are in a relationship you need to understand your partner’s emotions and behave accordingly. Understanding each other takes a relationship to the next level.

 

6) Family is everything

 

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One thing that lasts forever is FAMILY. Misunderstanding will fade slowly making everyone realize others importance. Don’t hate family for your problems.

‘This is us’ full of family and love.  It feels that this family is really exists somewhere in our neighborhood. Every girl wants a husband like Jack Pearson. Every mother wants their Kid to be like Randall.

They have their differences but never let them empower their love and emotions. This show highlights the importance of family and relations.

 

7)  Learn to move on

 

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Things will change! Nothing is constant in this world. Whatever we have might not be there for tomorrow. Live every day.

Once after Jack’s death, Rebecca married his best friend. Nobody ever imagined that Rebecca will accept someone else in her life. Because Jack and Rebecca were the perfect loving couple.

But when we think practically, being in Rebecca’s shoes we can understand her pain.  She doesn’t want to suffer alone in the memories of Jack. She loves him but she has her own life.

It is important to move on with life. Don’t be stagnant!

 

8)  Sometimes you will be ignored

 

Happened with Kevin! Kevin’s whole life was spent in ignorance by his parents. This was obvious too.

Jack and Rebecca were extremely cautious towards Kate and Randall. Kate was dealing with weight problems hence Rebecca always had an eye on her. Randall got extra care because they feared he might feel separated from the family because he is black (or adopted!).

In this process the one who was ignored was Kevin. He was fine hence his parents thought that he can handle on his own. This made him feel jealous of Randall.

It happens almost with everyone. Especially in families where there are more than 2 kids. Being a parent keep an eye on your kid to analyze what they are going through.

 

9) There is good in everything

 

William left Randall in the Fire station! He was not capable of taking a child’s financial responsibility. One of the sympathetic scenes from the show.

When he meets the grown-up Randall at the later point of life, William was guilty about his actions. He was scared to face Randall!

But William has a beautiful side of his own. He is a poet, calm and expressive. He agreed to Rebecca when she asked him not to meet his son he followed it punctually.

Sometimes life is cruel, it makes people do bad things. If we give them one more chance they might end up as the best humans we have ever met! Always see the good things in people, life and spread positivity.

 

10)  Pregnancy needs extra care

 

Dear men, don’t take your pregnant wife lightly thinking it is one common phase of life. Pregnancy needs extra care for both men and women.

While the women are bearing physical and emotional pain, men are bearing the future financial tensions. It is one of the most important phases of life.

 

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Jack and Rebecca were blessed with triplets but after the delivery came back to home with only 2 kids. Their dear son Kyle was gone before coming to life. Then they adopted another kid to fill the void.

Also, we have seen Rebecca shouting on Jack, eating more and going through mood swings when she was pregnant. They both planned everything for their kids and proved as the best parents ever.

 

 

 

Here is me signing off today’s #favoriteshow post.

Keep watching!

18 thoughts on “Lessons about family values from the show ‘THIS IS US’

  1. Definitely one of my favourites. I have watched parts of it when it first aired on TV a couple of years back. Now I am re watching it on Amazon

    Hearts to Jack and Rebecca:)

  2. Vartika Mehrotra Gakhar says:

    One of the best reviews I have read lately. There are rare husband’s like Jack but he is like any other father as all father’s are same, they live for their family. It must be very interesting to watch them as a couple and then growing old. The fact of adapting the third child touched me. Loved the post totally.

  3. Will search it on amazon, the number of epis seems high though. The story line is great. We generally dont gat to pick out family we r blessed with them and the sooner we accept the differences life gets better for everyone

  4. For once this is a show that I had watched a couple of years back based on the recommendation of a friend. I quite liked. It but your take away from the show is quite unmatched.

  5. I think this show has come to India. Based on your review, I shall watch it at least a few episodes.

  6. Shubhra Rastogi says:

    Lovely take aways of the show which also imply to the rael world.

  7. vidhya29 says:

    woow seems like an interesting show

  8. Rashi Roy says:

    Yes, this one’s a fantastic show

  9. aditi says:

    Wow! Can’t wait to start watching the show.

  10. Very nice review of the show, Loved reading,good to know about this show, some shows are still worthy enough to watch,i dont have habit to watch TV or Netflix but will recommend my closed ones.

    1. Hackytips says:

      Great!

  11. My bestie has been forcing me to watch this show from many days and I keep on postponing it everytime. I have been reading a lot of good things about it and now with this detailed post of yours I will surely give it a start after the challenge ends.

    1. Hackytips says:

      It is one of the best show!

  12. I heard about this series from another friend of mine. Glad to see that you are also recommending the same

    1. Hackytips says:

      Yes 🙂 This will be in my Top 10 recommendations.

  13. I really want to watch this show. You’ve highlighted some great tips here!

  14. This sounds like my kind of series.Thanks for sharing Sanjota .

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